Coping with Failure
Failure and disappointment is as much part of a distance-learning student’s life, as it is for a traditional student. Even the brightest and most hard working students experience discouraging test symbols or exam results from time to time. However, you cannot let that slow you down or even give up your dreams.
“I have not failed. I've just found 10,000 ways that won't work.” ~Thomas Edison
- Do self- assessment.
Realize and analyse your mistakes right after an exam or test. Do not hesitate and look within yourself and analyse the reason responsible for your failure. If you honestly follow this advice am sure you will be able to draw certain constructive conclusions helping you avoid making the same mistake again.
- Never lose your confidence.
Self-confidence is of critical importance in stressful examinations. The best way to regain your confidence is to put criticism or poor results behind you and prepare yourself very thoroughly for the next chance to proof your worth. It also helps to surround yourself with confident people as a positive circle can play a very big role in your success.
- Lean on your support system.
According to successful students, a good friend circle plays a very important role in one’s life and career growth. A good friend circle also ensures your focus on your goal. So spent time with good friends, discuss and share the things with them. This circle also becomes important when you are in a negative situation and helps you to deal with frustration and prevent you to give up your studies. Never hide your failures, rather share your disappointments.
“Failure is only the opportunity to begin again more intelligently.” ~Henry Ford
- Do not cast blame.
In case of exam failure there is no need to blame yourself or your institute or anyone else. It is perfectly normal to fail – regardless if you are a full time student or a distance learner. Kindly appreciate you are not the only student who got negative results. Accept the disappointment and move ahead, and believe things will be all right soon.
- Try again.
Check if there is a possibility for you to retake the exam. If you cannot, you can just make up for your failure in your next examination. In the meantime, you can put more effort into what you are doing at present.
- Practice proper stress management.
Stress is often one of the leading causes of anxiety and poor performance. Take some time – especially after a stressful period of exams. Go out with friends or family. Take a trip or a retreat. Do something productive with your time like taking up a sport. By the time you are back, you will feel refreshed and ready to try harder.
“The only real failure in life
is the failure to try.” ~ Anonymous
- Reduce exam anxiety.
Your poor grades might be the result of an underlying problem which can easily be fixed by focusing a little attention on the following: effective studying; a healthier lifestyle; accurate information; exam-taking preparation; attitude change; rational (instead of irrational) thinking anxiety reduction techniques.
- Value criticism.
Do not take criticism personally and never respond to the tone but rather to the suggestion that a tutor or lecturer make. Learn to use criticism to better yourself and distinguish between positive and false criticism.
- Adjust your standards.
Perfectionism is a major source of avoidable stress. Stop setting yourself up for failure by demanding perfection. Set reasonable standards for yourself and others, and learn to be satisfied with average results.
“Failure improves the taste the victory” ~ Anonymous